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During the time of pregnancy it is not advisable to wear heels and many doctors suggest it may cause some risks to you and your baby. There are several effects that can be caused by wearing heels at the time of pregnancy. While, wearing heels for long time makes the calf muscles to be in a contracted position that tends to cramps in muscles which brings problems during pregnancy. Also high heels can alter the posture, whereas during pregnancy you will gain weight in front and posture change may cause pain. In the time of pregnancy ligament in lower back and legs were loosened so wearing heels gives more pressure to the pelvic and back joints because of no proper support. This causes pain in joints and ligaments of lower back and pelvic area.

There are many medical state which are recognized as edema or inflammation in legs, ankles and foot, whereas it is common at the time of pregnancy so wearing heels or tight shoes leads to swollen feet along with that it causes more pain. During pregnancy period the ankles strength will be reduced because of excess weight and changes in body hormones due to this balancing capacity were lowered. So, wearing heels on this time have a higher chance of losing balance and tripping over that ends up in injury to you and your child as well. Not only that, it have high risks of miscarriage also. To avoid such risks it is better to not wear heels during pregnancy.

Wear high heels during pregnancy safely keeping several concerns in mind

Those having habit of wearing heels have difficulties to not wear them during pregnancy, as they can wear heels while pregnancy by keeping certain precautions in mind. You can wear low heels in the first trimester as the hormonal flow will increase and muscles stretch after that only. Try to use lower and branded heels also good to avoid platform or kitten heels while it is better to get comfortable shoes to wear. There is a situation to wear heels for entire day during pregnancy then it is necessary to take short breaks as need to relax the feet for a while by taking off them and then can put it on. It is not advisable to wear wedge heels on pregnancy time as they can harm. It is best to avoid walking or standing in high heels in parties or outings for long time and if it is necessary to do so, then try to sit and rest at most. Feeling discomfort on wearing heels then do stretching workouts for calf muscles and give a massage to the feet gently which can ease the pain. To the most try to avoid wearing heels during pregnancy is good for you and your baby.

Be comfortable by using shoes in pregnancy

In the pregnancy period it is better make use of pregnancy shoes that are comfortable to wear as walking in barefoot while pregnant is not good as they can harm or cause foot problems. It is important to wear supportive shoes in proper size to prevent from bunions, hammertoes, over-pronation and other foot problems. There are many numbers of best shoes for pregnancy are available on online store among that choose the one comfortable for you and it is necessary to give importance on choosing the maternity shoes as it is not only going to carry only you also carrying your baby. The best and comfortable shoes that can be used during pregnancy are as follows.

Rothy’s the sneaker – It is an eco-friendly brand and can feel like royalty by wearing this and their shape made it excellent to wear in pregnancy time.

Clarks Raisie Eletta Loafers – It is the most comfortable shoes for pregnancy as they have cushioned footbeds and OrthoLite insoles that offer moisture-wicking technology.

Fly London Waterproof Gore-Tex Chelsea Boot – It can withstand in any weather and their cushioned footbed gives best arch support.

Birkenstock Arizona Big Buckle Slide Sandal – It is more comfortable to wear because of their contoured cork footbeds as they mimic the shape of your foot which makes it to be great support and it is perfect shoes to wear in pregnancy during summer.


Hi Vicki –

I’ve been reading Duct Tape Parenting and am wondering, have you worked with any families with children with special needs? My daughter has Down Syndrome. We have the same expectations of her at home as we do of her siblings. Are there any special considerations when applying Duct Tape to her?

Thank you!


Vicki’s Answer

Dear Kelly,

Although I don’t work specifically with parents who are raising a child with a particular special need, in your case Down Syndrome, my husband is a special educator at the high school level and we talk daily about how this approach to parenting impacts his students, what works and what doesn’t, and what kinds of modifications he makes to accommodate a particular student.

This less-is-more approach to parenting is based on concepts that support the relationship we have with our children and their ability to become independent, self-reliant, engaged people. The concepts apply to anyone we are in relationship with.  The techniques and strategies provide a structure that can be modified to accommodate any child at different stages of development or with special needs.

Every child is unique and as parents it is our job to modify the techniques and strategies we use, the expectations we have of the child, the time we allow a child to create a healthy habit, and master a task or learn how to deal with frustration and disappointment.  For instance, one child might find it easy to get up in the morning and get dressed, and so on.  It might take longer for your child to master her morning routine.  It might require a technique that helps her to keep track of the tasks and whether they have been completed, but as you say keep the expectations the same.  It might require more support and encouragement.  It might require letting her deal with a bit of frustration, but perhaps not as much as another child might be allowed to experience.  Another example might be around hygiene and manners.  These are areas that might need additional training.  It might even require more “reminding” until a habit of daily hygiene and manners is solidified, and again working toward the same goal.

It is important that we look at each child as a unique human being who is driven to feel a sense of belonging and significance in the family and to master her environment.  Anything we can do as parents to assist and support our children in this endeavor will go a long way to helping them create a meaningful and fulfilling life.

Please let me know if you have any more questions.


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